[1] The Pain of Rejected Compliments: A Study in External Validation

This is my psychology reflection update. I have encountered many people online. Yes, online; I love online methods of communication as well. I found one person on TikTok. They consistently rejected my praises and compliments, such as comments about their success as a TikTok celebrity or their ability to 'adult' in life. This was because they have a beautiful, tidy house compared to me, who is still living with my parents. (But yeah, it's not something to be too sad about. I love my parents. They take care of me, and it's their house which they have successfully built themselves using their own money — not rent, not instalments, just their own money.) The raw me wishes that I had a dedicated house like that TikTok celebrity. I wish I had one of my own, where I am the only person living. But, yes, they share their house with friends or roommates. The point here is that I want to say they consistently reject my compliments and praises. According to my AI chatbot, Google Gemini, and based on insights from psychologists and psychotherapists, this is because they reject external judgments entirely. They do not recognise them. They want their self-sufficiency to be higher than my entire good judgment. What if I insult them as well? Well, they would not like that either. They also reject genuine compliments, which hurts me. I will continue this reflection in a new, separate entry.

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